Here you go.....
So, there's no way that Toby's comment was appropriate (don't think the screen shot is showing up in the quote). However, I don't see that as him saying you're a half-ass fan because you're concerned about your family. I read it as him saying that if you were a true fan of the Niners, then you would have worries about the Niners (this was in the playoffs) to go with the stress coming from your family's health issues.
Again, not condoning what he said, or agreeing with it. I think it was pretty abhorrent quite frankly. However, with his incredibly strong denials, I believe the above is what he meant by the comment.
Again, horrible comment and I hope things are looking better for your family.