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Hey guys, I just want to start off and say this is not a troll post/account. I am a member on here but am really going through some tough times in life. I feel like my life just sucks and am losing appreciation for it, so I just need some people to talk to. I know people can track my Ip and find out who I am but I ask you just keep it to yourself. For the record I am not suicidal and stuff, just really have a terrible outlook at life right now. I figured I would post it in the Nebraska section because this is usually where I spent my time and I have a good sense of who you all are as individuals.
First off I am having relationship issues. I am currently not talking to my girlfriend as she has asked for some space to decide if she wants to continue a relationship with me. We've been having problems for the past 4 months and been dating for about 2 years. Our problem in our relationship is sex and her new friends/friendships.
It was about a year into our relationship when she seemed to lose her sex drive(I am 21, she is 19). At start were going at it about 2-3 times a week, then once a week, to once a month, and now I haven't been laid since approximately a week before thanksgiving of last year. She says sex doesn't appeal to her, and she doesn't want to have sex anymore. I respected her decision and thought she was just going through a phrase because some girls do, but as time has passed she is becoming more and more against any sexual type of romance.
No matter how hard I tried to get her in the mood in various methods of just taking her out and making her feel special to foreplay, she resisted. It got to the point that very week or two she would give me a little something else in return which was nice, but just isn't the same connection. She doesn't let me do anything to her anymore or try to get her in the mood. She doesn't even make out with me or kiss me deeply because she thinks I will try to lead it into sex. It's just completely awful and how shes stopped even with giving me things every once in awhile. We tried to do it on a night where we celebrated Christmas together, but she said it "hurt." so we stopped and didn't even really do anything. I've asked her if she thinks something is wrong with her down there, and she says she doesn't know, but she is also unwilling to even find out or try to fix the problem.
Now before people get the assumption that all I want is sex, it's not. I have been trying to have a great relationship with her despite a lackluster sex life. Its just at least once every week or two weeks I really want to get something going, the fact that I have no sex life with her anymore makes me internally unhappy and depressed. Everyday I see her I go out of my way to make her feel special, important, and know that I am willing to do anything for her but it just seems hopeless.
As for her friends, she recently started to hang out with a group of friends from work. Her new best friend is a gay guy (yes he is completely gay and my g/f is not cheating on me) and she texts and spends a considerable amount of time with him. I feel like my anger and sadness is funneling towards him because he became a part of my g/fs life when our problems occurred. The worst part about this guy is he is so latchy and takes up my g/fs entire facebook page and texts her non-stop. He is more and more becoming a part of my g/f's life as I seem to be fading away.
These two problems in our relationship seem to cause us to get mad at each other or annoyed every once in awhile. We've tried discussing how we felt to each other about two times now but she doesn't change anything. We both have gotten better about getting annoyed at one another or mad but she doesn't make efforts to do anything sexual, and she spends more time with her friends than me still. I feel like I have taken backseat to her new found friends and lost my sex life completely. I don't want our relationship to end because I love her, but I don't want to be internally unhappy in the process.
I'm actually going to work now, so I'll be on in few hours to discuss this problem. Sorry for the length guys.
First off I am having relationship issues. I am currently not talking to my girlfriend as she has asked for some space to decide if she wants to continue a relationship with me. We've been having problems for the past 4 months and been dating for about 2 years. Our problem in our relationship is sex and her new friends/friendships.
It was about a year into our relationship when she seemed to lose her sex drive(I am 21, she is 19). At start were going at it about 2-3 times a week, then once a week, to once a month, and now I haven't been laid since approximately a week before thanksgiving of last year. She says sex doesn't appeal to her, and she doesn't want to have sex anymore. I respected her decision and thought she was just going through a phrase because some girls do, but as time has passed she is becoming more and more against any sexual type of romance.
No matter how hard I tried to get her in the mood in various methods of just taking her out and making her feel special to foreplay, she resisted. It got to the point that very week or two she would give me a little something else in return which was nice, but just isn't the same connection. She doesn't let me do anything to her anymore or try to get her in the mood. She doesn't even make out with me or kiss me deeply because she thinks I will try to lead it into sex. It's just completely awful and how shes stopped even with giving me things every once in awhile. We tried to do it on a night where we celebrated Christmas together, but she said it "hurt." so we stopped and didn't even really do anything. I've asked her if she thinks something is wrong with her down there, and she says she doesn't know, but she is also unwilling to even find out or try to fix the problem.
Now before people get the assumption that all I want is sex, it's not. I have been trying to have a great relationship with her despite a lackluster sex life. Its just at least once every week or two weeks I really want to get something going, the fact that I have no sex life with her anymore makes me internally unhappy and depressed. Everyday I see her I go out of my way to make her feel special, important, and know that I am willing to do anything for her but it just seems hopeless.
As for her friends, she recently started to hang out with a group of friends from work. Her new best friend is a gay guy (yes he is completely gay and my g/f is not cheating on me) and she texts and spends a considerable amount of time with him. I feel like my anger and sadness is funneling towards him because he became a part of my g/fs life when our problems occurred. The worst part about this guy is he is so latchy and takes up my g/fs entire facebook page and texts her non-stop. He is more and more becoming a part of my g/f's life as I seem to be fading away.
These two problems in our relationship seem to cause us to get mad at each other or annoyed every once in awhile. We've tried discussing how we felt to each other about two times now but she doesn't change anything. We both have gotten better about getting annoyed at one another or mad but she doesn't make efforts to do anything sexual, and she spends more time with her friends than me still. I feel like I have taken backseat to her new found friends and lost my sex life completely. I don't want our relationship to end because I love her, but I don't want to be internally unhappy in the process.
I'm actually going to work now, so I'll be on in few hours to discuss this problem. Sorry for the length guys.
