OT- relationship gripes.

[dash]

I think in my case it was just pure blind luck than anything else...I had a ton of fun during my 20s dating several women (some serious, most casual) and was fortunate to meet my current wife in my late 20s. It's been a little over 15 years now and things are still going great.

 

[loki604]

I have 99 problems, but a bitch ain't one.

 

[Automattic]

I think in my case it was just pure blind luck than anything else...I had a ton of fun during my 20s dating several women (some serious, most casual) and was fortunate to meet my current wife in my late 20s. It's been a little over 15 years now and things are still going great.

Me too. I quit looking for the perfect woman and she ended up finding me instead.

It's the chase that ruins it for most. You gotta be yourself during the courtship stage, that way you avoid the "you're not the person I first met" scene.

 

[Automattic]

I have 99 problems, but a bitch ain't one.

Funniest shit i've heard today!

 

[dash]

I have 99 problems, but a bitch ain't one.

Leave Gretzky out of this

 

[loki604]

But if you're having girl problems, I do feel bad for you son.

 

[devs30rko]

But if you're having girl problems, I do feel bad for you son.

its not so much problems. when were together everything is very smooth

its more that the question of are we holding each other back from other oppurtunities and such by being together when the schedules are rough.


its quite the conundrum, and its a battle of two mentalities.

as many of you have said, its not worth the time trying and trying with little to no reward. thats one mentality,


the other i've heard from a couple friends is the, how bad do you want it side, as well as the, well you've broken up twice over it, and have come back 3 times, you know what the problem is, but there must be a reason you keep coming bac to each other.




both counteract the other, its a viscious cycle.

 

[loki604]

I would drop her like it's hot.

There's no rule saying when it's over, it's completely over. Maybe down the road, you both are in different spots in your life and things can work out, without the distance.

But I do know one thing yo, bitches they come they go.

 

[awaz]

been there with the distance thing man.. dated a girl from HS while i was a freshman in college (she was a senior in HS).. distance (300 miles) was tricky and hard, but the way it ended up is we became really close cause we talked all the time.. then when she came down here we lived in adjacent buildings, things were great, then when we put 1 mile in between us (my junior year) things fell apart

unfortunately the close thing still sticks, and now we play around in the 'i think i wanna get back together' area off and on.. its really a bad situation..

obviously we didnt have a lot to complain about being in college and not having real lives to worry about, so its a little different.. but the more i go about life i think its all about timing

 

[Winged_Wheel88]

Ya gots to shows her ya love her by throwin' hers a beatin' once in awhile.

Wow, that ain't the Mac they portray on those Mac and PC commercials.

 

[Dacks]

I will say this: now that I'm in a serious relationship and not on the prowl, I get hit on all the time when I go out on the town. Good times.

 

[Comeds]

I married the first woman who ever said "hi" to me.

 

[IPostedWhat]

I married the first woman who ever said "hi" to me.

You married your Mom?

 

[Comeds]

Of course not, thats illegal. At least it was when I checked.

 

[Slimpikins]

apologies to rub this off on all of you guys but i gotta vent here...

You like to rub one off on guys?

To each there one I guess but try not to get any on me...

 

[SLY]

lol... Goddamnit devs, what kind of freaky shit you into? Goddamn Devils fans.

 

[Darkstone42]

I had a similar situation, less the kid, in which I had a driven girlfriend and some distance between us. We were both involved actively in our schools, and neither of us had weekends off (we still don't, to be honest), so we saw each other about once every four months or so.

But that's not why we broke up.

It turns out that, after nearly two years, we finally realized that we were completely incompatible. Our personalities diverged so severely (taste in just about every form of entertainment, sense of humor, perception of essentially every event) that it became difficult for us to agree. Neither of us are bad people, we're just insanely different.

Specifically, she is extremely mature and detail-oriented. I embrace my youth to a huge degree (I often refer to myself as having the approximate maturity of a six-year-old) and treat everything in terms of the big-picture. She always needs to be in control of her situations, and I almost completely just go with the flow. When it came down to it, our life philosophies made it impossible to date.

So I guess what I'm saying is that if you're breaking up with any regularity, there's something more than distance at work that's keeping you from staying together. Distance isn't all that difficult to deal with, to be honest, until you get into marriage territory, if you are otherwise compatible. And like Loki said, if you call it off now, it's not like it's impossible to get back together when things work more to your favor. And from my experience, you might find someone better for yourself. My current girlfriend actually appreciates my childishness. I'm stunned.

But in any case, good luck, buddy! I'm sure you'll figure it out.

 

[Bizzle McDizzle]

holy crap...

apparently I fell asleep with the TV on and woke up to a Dr. Phil show...

where's that damn remote...

 

[forty_three]

For me, dating a girl who was away at college was a God-Send. I had just gotten out of a really unhealthy relationship when I met Mrs 43, and she went away to school before too long. We'd been dating maybe three months.

But what I learned is that without all the physical stuff interfering, we really got to know each other. Phone calls and letters, I learned a lot about her. And every day my need to see her or be with her grew. I kind of knew that I had found the right one.

The feelings I felt without her around were the accurate ones.

We've been together for half my life, and she's still my best friend.

And I wasted a lot of emotion before I knew her.

 

[devs30rko]

You like to rub one off on guys?

To each there one I guess but try not to get any on me...