coach versus parent: Minor hockey story

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Oh, by the way, if a coach ever hit my kid for any reason, he's getting dropped. And I don't mean fired either.

Take it easy, Milbury.

 

[blindbaby]

The little prick probably had it coming.



Seriously though, most of the time this happens - at least from my experience - the kid is usually some spoiled twat who's parents give him free reign to do and say anything he pleases. You put him amongst some domineering coach trying to live out his own failed sports dreams vicariously through some kids and this is the result.

That said, there's still NO excuse for hitting the little shit.

 

[blindbaby]

Take it easy, Milbury.

Milbury would have been the one swatting the misguided little tyke.

 

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Milbury would have been the one swatting the misguided little tyke.

Now now, he was cleared of those charges...

/Mike did not hit, so you must acquit.

 

[puckhead]

/Mike did not hit, so you must acquit the stupid shit.

fixed that for you

 

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Meh, I'll just drop this here - Remember the BC hockey coach who tripped a player as they were shaking hands after the game? He pled guilty to assault.

'Tripping' B.C. hockey coach pleads guilty - Yahoo! News Canada

 

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Update - The coach who tripped the kid in the handshake line gets 15 days in the slammer.

 

[BF4L]

If any coach hit my kid he would answer to me very quickly. I would not kick his ass but I would make sure he knew that I was about to contact the police and have him arrested.

 

[blindbaby]

Regarding the trip. If that was my kid, I'd give the guy a chance to make amends before I took it much further. At worst, I'd let his club discipline the tool long before I felt compelled to bringing the law into this. Now if the clown had actually hit my kid, different story.

 

[4thstreet]

Never, ever, ever for any reason is it acceptable for a coach to put his hands on a player like that. Ever.

However, I think youth sports would be much better if parents were not allowed to watch. Here's my little story of a run in with a parent / coach. As a coach myself.

So we're playing in a game against a team we should NOT be playing in any way. It's a girls team, and my team is 100% Squirt Minors, IE 9 year olds. The Girls team is a U14 team. But the two youngest (of 17 kids) are 9, so the parents of the kids got them slotted in to play against squirt boys "in the interest of fairness". 7 of these girls are 14 years old. Every squirt boys team has protested, but lo and behold one of the parents of one of the girls runs the CCYHA. His daughter is 12. So our boys don't even want to play. Imagine the biggest kid on your team is smaller than the smallest on theirs. They are not having fun. So we tell them it's good practice for dumping and chasing because carrying the puck is out. Not in front of the kids, but us coaches kind of laugh at the parents of these behemoths. If that's what they need to feel good about themselves, etc.

The team has not lost a game yet this season.

So, one of our boys is apparently rather upset on the ice. He was open, and no pass came. Apparently, which we did not know, when play stopped he asked his linemate "where's the F---ing pass?" I did not hear the cussing, but he was still needling the linemate as he got back to the bench. I benched the kid for the last 3 minutes for picking on his team mate.

But after the game is when it hit the fan. Apparently, one of the girls on the other team heard it, told the coach who did not bother to tell the ref or get word to us of what happened. No, he waited until the end of the game and confronted the kid and shook him by the shoulders. The only way I knew what happened was when I saw the kid, crying and running to the locker room. The coach came up and said "if it wasn't him, I am sorry". I asked him what happened and he told me of the cussing. He left out the whole "I shook the shit out of him" part when talking to me. We didn't find out about that until another parent of a kid on a team playing after us sent an email to the league president. Strangely, there were around 20 parents of kids on the U14 team standing around, and none of them saw anything.

And all they had to do was call time, let the ref know to tell us, and I would have sent the kid to the showers. I'd already benched him for attitude. I don't play that. But no, this "grown up" had to confront a 9 year old, physically.

So, now, as the playoffs are starting all the remaining teams are banding together to get the U14 girls banned from competition because of the actions of the coach and parents.

I would be here all week,if i listed stories from 36 years of coaching.I currently coach 16-18 yr old senior boys.They mouth off,as you would expect,but I found that sitting them out a few innings,or even a game usually gets the message across.

As for unruly/abusive parents-our league policy allows coaches/umpires to have them thrown out of the park,and if problems still persist,the police(2 in park at all times)will escort out.or arrest.

 

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I think I deserved an assist this past weekend - I was at my daughter's basketball tourney and the officials were calling all the flops my daughter's opponent was playing as charges (fouls in one quarter were 6 to nothing against my daughter's team). Not only that, but the other team was travelling more than teams do in the NBA. Well, I piped up a couple of times and the ref gave me the following:

So, I shut up and didn't say a word the rest of the game. It was quite funny to see how the calls changed the rest of the game (blocking fouls instead of charging, travelling started getting called) and to make a long story short, my daughter's team won.